Hi, I'm Aliya!
I want to share something that's been on my mind with you. This week alone, in two separate conversations, the same dilemma has come up. How is it possible to achieve success in your career while maintaining a fulfilling relationship?
If you can relate to this concern, you're in good company. To start, quite honestly, there's something about aiming for significant impact in your business that's both exhilarating and a bit intimidating. Perhaps you want to stand out and leave your mark on the world, but there's a lingering fear that success in your professional life might come at the cost of your personal happiness. And the idea that it's an either-or situation can truly be paralyzing.
Let's look at this a bit more closely, though. When we believe we can't have both career success and a fulfilling relationship, we limit ourselves. In other words, we create a limiting belief that keeps us thinking, behaving, and ultimately creating results that prove that unwanted belief to be true!
For instance:
If we believe we "never have enough time," even if we do have decently-sized pockets of time here and there, we’ll likely never view those as enough.
If we believe we’re not organized enough to sustain or run our business, we likely won’t be.
And similarly, if we believe our relationship will suffer if we achieve the success we desire, it likely will.
So the question becomes…how do I get rid of this limiting belief?
I’m so glad you asked! Let's check out these 4 steps to start:
1. Identify Your Values and Priorities: What truly matters to you? Create some space for yourself to clarify what you genuinely want in your relationship and your career. What would make your relationship/business feel fulfilling or successful? Once you understand your priorities and desires, you can align your actions with your values.
2. Purposeful Time Management: Here's some wonderful news: successful individuals don’t work 24/7. Instead, they’ve learned to manage their time in an effective way that works for who they are. So, consider implementing time management strategies that honor both your career and relationship. This might mean setting boundaries and being thoughtful about how you're spending your energy as well as delegating tasks and prioritizing what's most important.
3. Communicate to Clarify: Question! How can you create a safe and supportive space to share your big career ambitions, as well as your concerns with your partner? Interestingly enough, when we can communicate both our dreams and fears in a loving way we increase the opportunity for enhanced clarity, understanding, connection and intimacy. Yes, please!
4. Self-Care: Pouring from an empty cup = stress, burnout, exhaustion, or all of the above. Instead, let’s make self-care the norm. Even if we only have 5 minutes between meetings to rest and recharge, let's use them. A healthy work-life balance, regular exercise, and relaxation techniques can all contribute to your overall well-being, which, in turn, will benefit both your career and your relationship.
What are your thoughts on these 4 tips? Did we get the wheels turning - even just a tad - on the idea that we don't have to choose between a career or a relationship, but instead, can actually pave a feasible path towards harmonizing them?
I hope so. Because here's the thing. Regardless of WHAT the limiting belief is: we are capable of more than we can imagine. And when we actually believe that, we create possibility in our life, our business, our relationship...for ourselves, for others, for the world.
If you'd like to explore this topic further or discuss your personal situation, please don't hesitate to reach out. I'm here to support you on your journey to achieving your dreams, both professionally and personally.
**Your Liaison From Dreamer To Doer**
PS: My biggest belief is that having like-minded others on this journey of entrepreneurship and creation isn’t just a nice-to-have, it’s an absolute must.
Last week I shared about a brand new mastermind/group coaching program. I’ll be enrolling determined and committed women + men who are eager to help others, soon. It’s called ACT, which stands for Aligned, Commitment, Together. It’s about leveraging the power of committing to our most aligned goals together in a community. It’s about sharing and having accountability to personal victories. It’s about sisterhood, like-minded others, friendship, and support. It’s about achieving. And yes, it's also about finding harmony in our businesses and relationships so we can have both.
If you know you’re interested in learning more, email me at aliya@aliyalevinson.com "Interested!" and I’ll send you our first announcement about the program when we're ready.
To your success!