Today, my husband Mike and I are going to look for couches for our new apartment in Hoboken!
Being from Chicago, I never thought I'd hear myself say I'm moving to New Jersey (...but lesson learned....never say NEVER)!
As we're moving, we've been getting rid of old stuff that just doesn't feel GOOD anymore.
And I've been thinking about the idea of starting fresh - and what that really means.
I realized that acquiring things that simply feel GOOD - AKA our new couch, also requires actually recognizing and getting rid of what doesn't work.
And doing something about it.
That includes things you're perhaps inadvertently saying "yes" to, even though you don't really want them.
I'm talking thoughts, ideas, people, even identities that need to be shed in order to move into something bigger.
More connected to the truth of who you REALLY are.
When I was growing up, I was never the girl who raised her hand in class.
I was always too shy to speak up in front of a classroom of my peers.
Too fearful of possibly answering the question incorrectly.
SO...I'd just sit pretty in at my desk and listen to all the other kids who did raise their hands get chosen to answer the teacher's question....
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When we were growing up, most of us took those "TYPICAL" elementary school classes...
And we assumed that those were all we needed to be set up for life...right?!
I'm guessing your childhood BFF never stopped you in the halls before lunchtime to say:
"Hey friend! I'll meet you at the swingset before I head to my --How To Understand My Own Value So I Can Charge My Worth-- class!" ...>>
Usually when we say 'sending love your way' it's because someone is sick, unhappy, or god-forbid knows someone who passed away.
But why don't we send love, just to send love?
I know I never have so much love in my life that I'm like "NO MORE! I CAN'T TAKE IT! Ugh, so much kindness and goodness- it's so unfair!"
Yet so often we're impressed with something someone does...
Or want to reach out to someone we feel needs our help...
And we don't. We stay inside our little box.
When I used to think about "selling," whether through:
👉direct messaging people and offering to hop on a call with them
👉 or promoting my latest offering in Facebook groups
I used to be UBER afraid of IRRITATING people.
I pictured everyone thinking: "Ugh. This girl just wants to SELL me"
OR "there goes Aliya again, waving her 'buy me, buy me!' flag!"
Seems like a simple enough idea, right?
Mmm, not so much, actually. Why?
>>Because SO many of us DON’T REALLY BELIEVE IT.<<
We don’t believe people actually like spending money.
In fact, most of us believe people HATE spending money.
So “what’s the harm in that?!” you ask?